Friday, May 27, 2011

Housing Update

We closed on our new house today. YAY! We might even be able to start moving in as early as sometime tomorrow, but if not, Sunday for sure. The owners said they would let us know when they were all done tomorrow. They are an older retired couple who are going to go RVing now and just travel around seeing the country. I went to the walk through with J today, and they were just about out, and they had a whole crew of folks helping them move. I wish we were going to have a whole crew of people helping us move. It's just me and J though. Mostly it's J. I'll probably do most of the unpacking of the household goods, but he'll have to physically move everything out of storage and into the house. I also have the two kids to take care of and keep out from under his feet. BUT we had a huge new yard for R to play and explore in. He didn't want to leave today when it was time to get back in the car. He's been asking all evening when we were going back to the new house. It looked today like I might need to do some painting at some point. They had lived in the house for 35 years. There are a lot of places where you can see the outlines of things that had been hanging on the walls for all those years. And grimy doors. But that might be a project that has to wait until B is a little older. I just don't feel up to the task yet.

In other related news, J is seriously talking about renting out the house in F'ville. *groan* I'd prefer to give it some more time on the market, maybe with a different relator, but he disagrees, and ultimately, it's up to him.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

May Madness

There have been a lot of things I have wanted to update lately, but I never seem to have the time. I'll open the page to start a post, but never get it started before I have to close the computer again.

We've had some exciting things going on in our lives the last couple of weeks. R and B and I went to TN for several days to visit my fam. J was on 12 and 14 hour night shifts last week, and since we're all still living in one room, the kids and I left to give him a chance to sleep during the day. During our trip, R. weaned! he nursed for 2 years, 8 months, and 22 days. We'd been working on gradually cutting out the bedtime nursing since I had B. First he had to learn to fall asleep without nursing, which was really the biggest challenge. But without daddy there to help with B during bedtime, R wasn't able to nurse at all. There had been a night or two before when he hadn't been able to, and what we did was offer "big boy milk" in a cup or a drink of water instead of nursing. Plus snuggles and a story of course. So while we were in TN, he got his drink of water and some snuggles and that was it. He's still asking at bedtime, even though he hasn't nursed in 10 days. But he's not sad about it, he doesn't cry or beg. And best of all, he falls asleep on his own now. And for the last 3 weeks, he's been sleeping through the night. This is HUGE! I'm so proud of my big boy, and so thankful that he's finally sleeping. It's a little sad for me that our nursing days are over, because that was the last little vestige of his baby days. But mostly I'm glad our bedtime struggles seem to be at an end, for the time being anyway.

B did really well on our trip too. She smiled and cooed at everyone, and was good in the car most of the trip. She had her 1 month check up yesterday, and she's 11.2lbs and 21in tall. She's ENORMOUS! Off the growth chart on weight and 95th percentile for height. She's gained almost a pound a week since we came home from the hospital, which is absolutely phenomenal. It's not a bad thing though, she's just a big healthy girl! R's growth was similar. He chunked up until he hit about 20lbs then stayed there for a long time. The other good news is that her ped. will allow us to delay her vaccinations like we have with R. I was worried they wouldn't continue to see her if we didn't vax on their schedule. Big relief there.

We should be closing on our new house on Friday, hooray! And be able to move in on Monday. I wish we could move in over the weekend, but the sellers are moving out then. I'll be so happy to have all my things out of storage, and leave this transient life style behind. It's been hard on us all to be living in this motel room for two months now. Tempers get short quickly. R. gets bored and watches way, WAY too much PBS Kids, and gets way too little time to play outside. We eat the same 5 or 6 meals every week because my cooking options are limited. We have no oven, and two tiny burners. And the laundry... oh the laundry. It's the very worst part. 4.50 (in quarters, mind you) to wash and dry a single load. and it has to be lugged down there to the room and back.

And now the baby is awake again :) love this little girl to pieces!

Monday, May 9, 2011

22 days

the hot water has been out since wednesday, our room has been full of ants for at least a week, and i've been covered in this horrible itchy rash also for about a week. Counting the days until we close on our house and move out of this dumpy room at the end of the month.

Friday, May 6, 2011

Mama of Two for Two Weeks

Little B has been with us for two whole weeks today. She's such a sweet little thing, with her own special personality that is already so, sooo different from her brother. So far, she's slipped pretty easily into our lives without creating too many waves or stress. She's been sleeping pretty well at night so I've been getting rest, which makes a world of difference in how I feel and how my body has been able to recover. She's growing really well too, in one week, she gained almost a pound. Her umbilical cord stump came off a couple of days ago and Wednesday she got her first real bath. She's got a very gentle, contented spirit.

I had to break down and buy a new ring sling because J wouldn't get my carriers out of storage. I've been out to run errands with both kids a couple times, and didn't have too much trouble. I get B settled in the sling, then deal with R. We've been to the doctor, the grocery store, the playground (twice). Today, whenever B wakes up from her nap, we'll go to the post office. I have had trouble getting some things done when she's awake, like dishes and laundry. The most difficult time of day is R's bedtime. He nurses to sleep, and more often than not, B needs to nurse then too, and trouble ensues. I've tried nursing them both at the same time, and it's doesn't end well. We just have to take it one night at a time and do the best we can. J's been a pretty big help, especially while he was off work. He had about a week off, and spent a lot of time with R. They went fishing several times, and to the store and playground.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

the birth of baby B

B was born Friday April 22nd, at 12:32pm, she weighed 8lbs10oz and was 20.5in long. Here is the story of my labor and her birth.

Wednesday (22nd) was our EDD, and when my OB checked me I was 4cm, but not in active labor. My parents and sister got here later that afternoon. Thursday I stayed busy, walked a lot all day, had sex that night, then woke up around 3am having just a few contractions. I had a lot of restless energy, but the contractions weren't very strong or regular, so I got up and decided I would just walk back and forth in our room to see if that would move things along. After just a few minutes they started coming about 5mins apart, and being a little stronger. I would stop and sway through them. R woke at 4am, so I laid down in bed with him and let him nurse to keep the contractions going. From about 4 on, they were 2-4 minutes apart and strong enough to need to breath through. I used a lot of visualization and breathing through this part of my labor. I stayed in bed with him until he fell back asleep at 6:30, occasionally letting him nurse if the contractions started to slow down. I got up and continued walking and moving. I couldn't sit down or be still through the contractions anymore. At 7 I took a shower and called my mom to be on stand by. J got up and we had some breakfast, i knew i needed to eat to keep myself going. I had to stop and lean against the counter or the wall and really focus through each contraction. They weren't especially regular, but at 8 we decided to go on to the hospital before R woke up again. We got there and when I got checked around 9 I was at 6cm. By the time I got all settled in to a room, it was closer to 9:45 or 10. The next hour and a half I labored in the bed, on my side, breathing, vocalizing and squeezing the life out of J's hands through the contractions. J timed them but they were never very regular. some were milder and short, some lasted 2 minutes with multiple peaks. I could feel her descending with those super strong contractions. By 11:30 I was getting tired and losing my ability to focus. nothing was giving me relief. J gave me strength though, I don't think I could have gotten through the final hour without him there. they checked me around 11:45 and I was 9, almost 10cm and bulging. my ob came in at 12 and we decided to break my water since it hadnt broken on its own yet- that was our only 'intervention'. There was meconium in her fluid. they busied about getting ready for the delivery for the next 15 or 20 minutes. i lost track of everything but the contractions and joe when I started to push. He told me afterward that we pushed through 8 or 10 contractions. So maybe 10 minutes at most. Being able to feel her coming out was the most intense, amazing thing i've ever experienced. I got a 2nd degree tear this time, and broke a ton of blood vessels in my face. They got me stitched up quickly and I was able to nurse B for the next hour or so before she went for her exam and they moved me over to postpartum. The rest of our stay at the hospital was uneventful. everyone was really nice, the food was sorta yuck, we didnt get much rest, they sent us home with tons of freebies. B is very easy going so far. She sleeps well, is great at the breast and doesn't fuss much. She'll actually take a nap in her bassinet!!! My milk has come in, and she is a little piggy. Her latch is fabulous, I've had no pain at all and she's so different from nursing R. we're sort of finding our groove here this week as a family of 4.

Everything about my labor and her birth were so, so different from last time. I felt much calmer, more confident, and so did J. Afterward I felt so... triumphant in myself and my body's ability to do such an amazing thing. I have been on this incredible high ever since. It was exactly what I needed it to be and so is she.